I’ve been doing my best to get some diverse reading done while traveling. On my bus ride from Chicago to Minneapolis, I read through a solid chunk of the Marquis De Sade’s ‘Philosophy in the Bedroom.’ If you are not familiar with the Marquis, he is an 18th century French intellectual dedicated to advocating extreme sexual liberation. I am interested in the book for a few reasons: one is that I’m interested in all aspects of the intellectual revolution of the 17th and 18th century and everything that ties into it. Second, I’m very curious about what constitutes 18th century porn. Well, I am not disappointed on either account. The word ‘sadist’ is derived from his name, largely due to the extreme nature of the sexual liberation he advocates.
Philosophy in the Bedroom proves to be racy at the beginning: the main characters are a 36 year old man who is sexually experienced and largely homosexual, but who basically approves of anyone capable of giving him pleasure, a young woman who is married, her brother, and a fifteen year old girl who is a virgin but curious. Near the beginning, all but the brother soon engage in some explicit sexual activity that focuses on the senior members instructing the younger in various pleasures. In between sexual encounters, the three engage in deeply philosophical conversations about the importance of pleasure and sexual liberation.
Frankly, this is fascinating. I must admit, I think I was raised in a highly traditional and conservative environment regarding sexual relations and relationships is general. This book is showing me another side to things. And although I have realized the limitations of my prejudices on this matter before, the realizations were purely intellectual; it was not until reading this book that the realizations awakened me psychologically. In other words, seeing the reasons for liberating myself have been around for years. Something about reading this book, however, changed me in another way.
So, I see myself being more liberated in the future. However, I want to keep this claim modest. Changes like this do not occur overnight without also being somewhat destructive to the person, I believe. Or at least, I generally do not undergo too much change too fast without some self-destruction. I am actually proud of myself for how much I have changed in the past 12 years of my life; I have become talented at that. But there is a moderate rate of change, and excessive rates as well.
Furthermore, although I find reading de Sade helpful and growing, there is some seriously twisted stuff in this book. The term ‘sadistic’ doesn’t mean what it does because of menage et trois’s, after all. There have been sections of the book, that I will not write about here, that physically made me cringe and feel nauseous. And just now in the beginning of the book, they are beginning to engage in physical acts of torture for the sake of pleasure. Bleeding has been involved.
This is a fascinating and worthwhile read for a number of reasons, but proceed with caution.