Scenario A: A team of four people assemble, and they have a common goal. They all wish to share in the responsibility. However, soon after the project begins, one member finds that the other three are not participating in the planning stages. They do not contribute to the decision making. The one member, finding no reason to engage with the other members, begins doing all the plan making on her own. Eventually, a decision is made that the other members of the party dislike. They become pissed off and accuse the one of taking control of the group.
If you were in the position of the one engaged person, would you behave differently?
Scenario B: A team of four people assemble, and they have a common goal. They all wish to share in the responsibility. However, soon after the project begins, two members appear to have very different ideas about how the group should proceed. But both sides are convinced that they are correct, and so they’re only objective with the other person is to criticize the other’s views; they do not question their own beliefs nor attempt a compromise. This does not get anything accomplished, so each individual ceases to speak to the other individual and begins the working and decision making on his own.